I have only met one female grey alien, their leader and queen. She is very cute and friendly, tries to rule benevolently over her subjects but doesn't have control over all of them and many disobey her. I did speak with her at length, she spoke in the form of riddles(she communicates with imagery into your mind not words) for me to solve until I was able to solve them and then the grey alien audience behind a one way mirror rose up in the chamber I was in applauded. It had the atmosphere of having won a game show then returned to Earth.
Grey aliens visiting Earth are explicitly and defiantly disobeying their queen. And she can't stop them. Best avoided for being here in the first place.
There are an estimated 4 evil alien civilizations in our galaxy. One of them are the greys whose leader queen is good but whose subjects disobey, one of them are the super predatory shadow people aliens with no good ones among them and another is us that would treat aliens like humans treat humans with the only reason we're not invading them being that we haven't developed interstellar travel yet. What is a 'space brother'? Anyone like us and just as fucked up as us?
https://ui.adsabs.harvard.edu/abs/20...1618C/abstract
If you think this planet's fucked up, so is this galaxy and universe. Alien contact is not helpful it's horrific. There are three evil civilizations in the Milky Way with a possible fourth including us as case in point.