I'm not going to lie the ending of AnoHana and like 1-2 parts before that made me cry (Ending especially i mean damn. That shit was hardcore happyness/sadness mixed). But thats coming from the guy who cried a shit ton during clannad + After Story.
But your it would have been, but it seemed that way. Izumi always seemed like she could of been the person because she was more determined and controling in a way. She wasn't as scared of what happened.
On another note, do you know of an anime with a Axe-Murder based storyline/Episode. I saw it on adult swim as a wee little kid and didn't catch the name. All i remember was there a a axe murderer in it lmao. I always wanted to revisit that episode as it made me paranoid for a few days

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