Family member diagnosed with bipolar disorder

[ArnoldaTermintr]

Someone close to me has been diagnosed with it. Never would have thought. What do i do now?

[Strelok26]

Someone close to me has been diagnosed with it. Never would have thought. What do i do now?

WTF is this?! seriously...

[Evans]

Read up on the subject, make sure she's not a female with a misdiagnosed PMS. Etc.

[Tassadar]

http://www.healthyplace.com/communit...ed/support.asp
Supporting someone with Bipolar disorder.

Do's and don'ts(from link above):
Do's and Don'ts
Supporting Someone with Bipolar - For Family and Friends

When someone is depressed, it is difficult for them, but also difficult for family and friends to know what to say and do. Below is a list of suggestions that we hope you find helpful.

* DO learn everything you can about this disorder. The more you know, the better equipped you will be to know what to expect.
* DO realize I am angry and frustrated with the disorder, NOT with you.
* DO let me know you are available to help me when I ask. I'll be grateful.
* DO understand why I cancel plans, sometimes at the last minute.
* DO continue to invite me to all the activities. I never know from day to day or minute to minute how I will feel and just because I am not able to participate one day does not mean I won't be able to today.
* DO feel that you have the right to ask about my doctor or therapist appointments - but DON'T ask me if I'm taking my medications if I'm legitimately upset about something.
* DO continue to call me, even when I only seem to want a brief conversation.
* DO send cards, notes, and other reminders of our friendship or relationship.
* DO offer me lots of hugs, encouragement, and love, even when I seem to withdraw.
* DON'T tell me I look too good to be depressed. I may be really fighting here to stay above water.
* DON'T tell me you know how I feel. Each of us is different and two people with this disorder can feel totally different. Pain is a relative thing, this includes emotional pain. DO let me know that you understand or that you can relate to what I am saying.
* DON'T tell me about your Aunt Margie or the friend of a friend who is managing in spite of this disorder. We are not all the same and I am doing my best.
* DON'T tell me to "pull myself up by the boot straps," "snap out of it," "what have you got to be depressed about," "you have so much to be grateful for," "there are a lot of people worse off than you," "happiness is a choice," or the likes. Believe me, if I could "snap" my fingers and have this depression be gone, don't you think I would have done that a long time ago? Don't you think I would choose to be happy?
* DON'T tell me not to worry, that everything will be all right or that this is just a passing phase. This is happening to me right NOW and things are NOT all right!
* DON'T ask me how I feel, unless you really want to know.
* DON'T tell me about the latest fad cure. I want to be cured more than anything and if there is a legitimate cure out there, my personal doctor will let me know. Also, don't call my doctor a quack and encourage me to throw out my medications.
* DON'T count me out. This could be the day that I'm ready to accept an invitation.
* DON'T give up on me.

Here, all about bi-polar disorder.

[b1gwi11]

dont get on their bad side i would say.

also just try to keep in mind that they do have bipolar disorder and arent just being a bitch.

[Jimmy1829]

i say just act normal. i think thats what works for every and any illness which concerns depression. giving them special treatment will make themfeel singled out and alone, however on the other end of the scale ignoring them will just make them feel as bad.

[b1gwi11]

i say just act normal. i think thats what works for every and any illness which concerns depression. giving them special treatment will make themfeel singled out and alone, however on the other end of the scale ignoring them will just make them feel as bad.

depends on the situation i think.

some people you have to give special treatment to.... or else they dont feel special.

[Mistral]

depends on the situation i think.

Probably, since it differed in our case. In our family, we don't really consider it much, since I do have a family member with manic depression who is taking medication. Granted, half of the family was diagnosed with classical depression, and it gets even more prevalent when you follow one side of my ancestry, so that may affect things some. Medication really has seemed to work quite well in migitating the effects of the neurological imbalances in these cases, though, so it is rather a matter of how it's being treated and how effective the treatments are, in a sense.

[KnightofNachos]

You're FUCKED man!


But on a serious note, I've experienced firsthand almost all mental illnesses, whether inner or outer.
You can't be told what it is, you have to see it yourself. It's like masturbation with a hockey stick.

Oh, and don't pretend to "understand" what the person is going through, because no one does unless they suffer from it.

[skakidd]

not much you can do when they're down just support them in their therapy by not saying anything about it. i suffer from something similar called s.a.d. = seasonal affection disorder thats where you're only depressed in the winter.