If it makes you feel better, my father (while not a bad person) didn't participate much at all in my life. He supported the family and was an all around okay person, but we never did anything together at all, and to this day he's a borderline stranger to me. My mother too while a good woman, really doesn't know me half as well as she thinks she does. She was also pretty crazy when I was growing up, and made life more complicated and unorthodox for me than it had to be.
Oh i mean, i dont feel bad for myself or nothing.
If anything, im better off without them.
Sure, my childhood was hell with the constant fighting and being around the hardcore drugs, but i wouldnt be the person i am today without it.
It doesnt come out here, but i can be a very mean person, i have a short temper, and no patience for anything.
But enough of this ol' bullshit, the past is the past and theres nothing we can do about it.
My mom was a stay-at-home mom until I was 13, and my dad is a workaholic. He's gotten better now that he's not doing shift work anymore, but growing up I rarely saw him until we moved out to BC when he took a management job. I get along with them fine, but I don't really know anything about them. Other than the occasional camping trip (where I spent the majority of my time off alone fishing), didn't really spend a lot of time with them. Up until recently, anyways -- whenever they come over to visit, it's the whole "sit down conversation, have a few drinks and shoot-the-shit while mom plays with Dallas" kind of stuff. Even then, we're still fairly strange with each other -- I would say they know 25% of me, and most of that was because of close proximity living for 18 years.
Still, nothing bad to say about my parents. They didn't make life hard for me growing up by being batshit crazy, drunks, druggies, or otherwise. They're just private people and spent most of their free time watching TV, or gardening, or making wine. My dad also makes intarsia as a hobby (he's pretty good, too).
What matters is you're mature to support yourself. So many people these days just mooch everything they can, and it makes me sick.
I was poor growing up so I know what a dollar is worth. Seeing all these damn kids (lol) bullshitting and crying about their parents being cheap and not giving them money for stuff drives me up the wall.
Installing a fan in a new section of the store we recently built I overheard some kids talking about how their mom was a bitch because she didn't buy him a damn PS3 for his birthday. Urge to kill.
Very similar to my parents, then. Although my mother did complicate things for me a lot.. I would elaborate, but it's probably not worth going down that rabbit-hole here. Needless to say though, I would have grown up to be very different if I'd have had the same opportunities most kids have. Instead, I got what I got, which mostly sucked. And now? I've no qualms about the person I am, in principle.. But there's a lot about myself I would change if I could.
Good point. I actually had a lengthy discussion about this kind of stuff recently with my friend Myles who joined the Marines.
We talked about whether we regretted our lives and stuff and I was like not really. I mean I've done some dumb shit I shouldn't have, but I wouldn't be where I am otherwise. Fate and all that, it's crazy to think about life any other way.